thebadassperger:

skyliting:

rememberyes:

boldmatter:

jadelyn:

likeadeadchinadoll:

and for those interested, you can find the report HERE

Just in case any dudebros are unclear on what this means: it means that your buddy who totally just had some bitch trying to ruin his life by accusing him of rape…almost certainly actually did rape her.  

Just keep that in mind.

Yeah man, imagine that, bitches don’t be lying.

Can we put this into context? It means that 99.4% of rape allegations are true. 

It means that 99.4% of rape allegations are true.

SIGNAL BOOST ALSO GET THIS INTO PEOPLES HEADS

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I feel like a really bad person for associating this song with Tavros so much but

Mallory Ortberg, laying waste to fools on GAWKER, today, regarding CNN’s offensively lovey-dovey coverage of the two high school football stars who were convicted on Sunday of sexually assaulting a blacked-out drunk 16 year old girl from a neighboring town at a party, and then sharing pictures of her on the internet. 

More details HERE. 

I think it’s reasonable to say that, given the football culture of Steubenville, OH and the notorious difficulty of proving sexual assault even when the victim REMEMBERS WHAT HAPPENED, it is likely that what these jocks did to this other human would have become simply a dark part of Steubenville high school folklore, were it not for the digital trail of photos, tweets, and texts that the bystanders and assaulters themselves put out into the world. 

SO THANK YOU, NERDS, FOR INVENTING SOCIAL MEDIA. 

And thank you, Mallory and Manhattan snark-media for reminding some people—including CNN, apparently—what personal responsibility actually means. 

That is all. 

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skyliting:

rememberyes:

boldmatter:

jadelyn:

likeadeadchinadoll:

and for those interested, you can find the report HERE

Just in case any dudebros are unclear on what this means: it means that your buddy who totally just had some bitch trying to ruin his life by accusing him of rape…almost certainly actually did rape her.  

Just keep that in mind.

Yeah man, imagine that, bitches don’t be lying.

Can we put this into context? It means that 99.4% of rape allegations are true. 

It means that 99.4% of rape allegations are true.

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Pssst rape isn’t something you can trip and fall and do

You have to intentionally have sex with someone without their consent or against their explicit LACK of consent

You have to CHOOSE to have sex with someone who is drunk or high or otherwise incapacitated or who is telling you no, or who told you no until you whined until they said yes, or who is clearly uncomfortable with how things are going

Literally the only way I can possibly think of for someone to commit rape ””by accident”’ is if both people are so drunk/high they have no idea what they’re doing but GUESS WHAT YOU STILL COMMITTED RAPE.

It is a purposeful act. It’s done on purpose. People who do wrong things deserve to be punished. People who do wrong things ON PURPOSE while KNOWING THAT THEY’RE WRONG and BEING AWARE OF WHAT THEY’RE DOING AND THAT IT’S WRONG definitely deserve to be punished. Punishing them and treating them like people who intentionally did something fucking awful is not treating them as ‘lesser beings’, it’s holding them to the same standards we hold the rest of humanity to.

PS: A one-year sentence isn’t going to ruin a bunch of white star athletes’ lives. 

PPS: If they commit rape then they deserve to be called rapists. For the rest of their lives. They shouldn’t ever be able to hide the fact that they’re rapists. Their victims can’t ever not be rape victims again, so why should they get the privilege of ever not being rapists again? Fair’s fucking fair. Being able to throw a fucking ball doesn’t mean you’re exempt from the rules of society.

My favorite thing about people whining that convicting young rapists ruins their lives is that no one seems to care about the victims whose lives THEY ruined.

What do THOSE people get?

rune-midgarts:

tankmonster:

rune-midgarts:

http://princessnecrophilia.tumblr.com/post/45437492443

HUGE TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE. it’s NOT an easy read.

if you can, however, please read it. 

yeah im sorry for not putting a trigger warning i apologise for that :(

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homosexualintellectual:

sassyandrogynefriend:

Okay, long story short. I was raped and robbed a couple nights ago and my bank account was brought down to $0.00.

You, of course, don’t have to but I’ve set up a button on my blog for anyone who wishes to donate a little bit to my bank account. My parents are supporting me a little with gas money, but this will help mostly with me eating since I have to be on campus all day every day and I am only able to bring one meal’s worth of food to school or if I have an unexpected small expense.

One thing I will make sure y’all know if you don’t remember is that I am an alcoholic. I quit drinking and I am almost 48 hours sober, previously 5 days sober. Because me being raped and robbed was an unfortunate result of my drinking I am now 100% committed to quitting. However, it’d be unrealistic to say that I absolutely won’t relapse because it is VERY difficult to quit. To help, I am going to AA meetings and I stopped going to bars until I feel comfortable not drinking in such environments (I lost my ID anyway). So… if you were considering donating, know that there is a risk and I completely understand if you don’t trust me.

Also, I don’t get my first paycheck until 2/2/2012.

The button is in the top-left corner of my blog. Any amount is appreciated.

Thanks for the support everybody.

signal fucking boost

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thismanisarapist:

amindfullofyou:

On the night of September 15th, Jon Jefferson Parkin, the vocalist of the SLC based band GAZA raped me while I was asleep.

Long story short, Jon was trying to date me and we were hanging out. I was feeling ill but felt compelled (read: manipulated) to stick around even though I had long decided I wasn’t interested in him earlier in the night (I figured out he was just fronting his social justice shit for cool radical punk points). After telling Jon “no” multiple times throughout the night, I finally got fed up of him trying and said, “Its not going to happen.”
“What?” he said as if he were clueless, “sex?”
“Yeah.” He said it was fine and said something along the lines of sex not being the only reason we were hanging out. I trusted him because we had talked pretty extensively about rape and consent before this night and he knew I planned the SlutWalk in Boise. So I went to sleep and he did too. We weren’t cuddling, opposite sides of the bed. I woke up 2 hours later from a dead sleep to him thrusting inside me. I was half asleep and thought it was a dream for about 30 seconds before I realized what was going on.

As soon as I was awake I knew I was being raped. I told him to stop and tried to push him away. My skirt and underwear were off (I have no memory of this). I curled up into a ball, violently shaking. “What’s wrong, don’t feel good?” “Yeah… thats it” I replied coldly. Then I said, “You can’t just start shit with people who are asleep”. Thats when he got really fucking scary. He was cowering over me (if you’ve never seen him, he’s HUGE, well over 6 feet) and said “what the fuck are you accusing me of?” I decided that trying to argue/fight him would probably end up in physical pain or being raped further so I deescalated the situation and told him to go back to sleep, which he did. After I worked up the courage I jumped up, grabbed what clothes I could find (didn’t manage to find my underwear) and ran the fuck out of there, and screamed back at him not to follow me. He did, as I was driving away I saw him running toward my car with my coat. I stopped the car, ran to grab the coat from his hand, and ran back to my car. He chased after me and slipped his hand in the door before I could close it and pried it out of my hands. He stood there screaming at me, and refused to let go of the car door. I told him that he raped me. He was furious. I told him to get the fuck away from me, to let go of my car, to leave me alone, and he kept saying “lets talk about it now” or “what the fuck are you accusing me of”. Finally, another guy overheard our screaming match and came over and said “what the fuck is going on over here?” I screamed back, “this fucking guy won’t leave me alone, let me go!” Jon turned toward him and let go of the car and I slammed the door and drove the fuck away.

He called me about 5 minutes later and tried to convince me that he didn’t rape me. He claimed that he asked me if it was okay and that I said yes. I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO MEMORY OF THIS EVENT. He didn’t fuck ask me anything. Even if I did in theory say yes in a sleep stupor, guess what? I WAS ASLEEP. SLEEPING PEOPLE CANNOT CONSENT. When I told this to him, he replied, “how was I supposed to know if you were awake or not.” “exactly!” I said, “thats why you don’t initiate sex with people who are dead asleep! because you have no way of knowing if they’re awake or not!” He didn’t care. He sent me a text later saying that he was sorry for any “misunderstanding”.

Its not a fucking misunderstanding, Jon. Having sex with people while they’re asleep is rape. He raped me.

I want to put him through an accountability process that involves Jon:
A) apologizing both publicly and through a letter for raping me,
B) reading and understanding books and zines about consent and rape and
C) quitting Gaza until he deals with his shit

Rapists shouldn’t be allowed to exist in the hardcore/punk scene. Don’t support Gaza until they either kick Jon out, or Jon goes through the accountability process outlined above.
There are a few things you can do to support me. Spread this around far and wide. Tell your friends who go to shows to be wary of him. (He met me when I was tabling for my zine distro at one of his shows). Don’t support Gaza. Don’t book shows for them. Don’t buy their merch. Don’t support a band who’s front man claims to be all about social justice but is actually a rapist. Let Gaza know that you won’t support their band until Jon leaves or goes through an accountability process. Here is their facebook and tumblr.

If you’re going to be a rape apologist and say that what happened wasn’t rape, just stop now. I don’t want to hear it. I know I was raped, and I don’t give a fuck what you say.

If you’ve been raped by Jon before, please send me a message. I would love to hear others experiences.

amindfullofyou is my (the creator of thismanisarapist) personal tumblr. part of the reason I made this blog is to see how people would react when I spoke about my rapist anonymously before i took the leap of speaking about it publicly.

i find it incredibly interesting that none of the other 30+ posts about rapists had people reblogging questioning the validity of the statements except the one about Jon. Just because he is in a popular band that pretends to be all for women’s rights doesn’t mean that they are incapable of being rapists.

this man is a rapist.

if you look at their facebook page, all you’ll see is dudes calling this woman a liar, in many cases WHILE CLAIMING TO STAND UP FOR WOMEN’S RIGHTS. fucking disgusting. 

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