All Things Grow

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edoro:

Hey

hey

fandom

Tavros isn’t ‘a pussy’ or ‘a weakling’ or ‘a wimp’ or ‘useless’ or ‘a helpless sobbing victim’

okay

I mean for one, like, he actually is a lot tougher than most people give him credit for? Vriska walks all over him but he still stands up to her, like, he straight up TELLS her he doesn’t want to talk to her, he doesn’t like her, he’s not going to apologize, she’s being ridiculous, etc. She’s spent years emotionally abusing him after disabling him and he still stands up to her.

And second, seriously, if you think OH MAN WHY IS TAVROS SUCH A DUMB WIMP WHO LETS PEOPLE HURT HIM??? than congratulations, you’re a victim-blaming shithead who doesn’t understand that he’s been emotionally abused for years, to the point where he legitimately doesn’t even see himself as having any worth because he’s disabled. He is a victim of severe abuse in a culture that tells him and his abuser that these are their proper places and, if anything, she’s being too lenient.

You don’t have to like Tavros, or think he’s interesting or even useful, but if want to hate on him about being ‘weak’ or to try to deny that the abuse he went through is tragic and awful, you’re kind of terrible.

THIS IS LIKE 1/5TH, MAX, OF MY FEELINGS ABOUT TAVROS

Also, can we, as a society, stop using the language of female-ness to imply weakness? The word ‘pussy’, in this usage, really irks me. It’s a word some people use to describe their and others’ genitalia (and/or sexual orifice[s]; these usages can be somewhat more problematic) and it’s female-associated. What does that have to do with weakness?

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I wrote the post and then thought, FUCK, what about this? Issues about whether or not Tavros is weak aside, calling someone a ‘pussy’ or ‘a weeping vagina’ is awful and will not endear you to anyone who doesn’t think sexism is cool.